This post was originally published on January 23, 2019 on andyellwood.com.
I asked my friends on Facebook what they would say to someone going through a tough time and if they had any favorite quotes, blogs, or videos that they thought would be encouraging. When I asked, I had a certain friend in mind, but as the more than 30 responses came in, I thought it would be worthwhile to share them all in one place. Check them out below and tag me in a tweet to let me know what you would add.
The responses came in a few different categories:
When you are going through hell, keep going. - Winston Churchill
All good work is done in the defiance of management — Bob Woodward
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt
“All of it is feedback and lessons. Those painful moments aren’t what you think they are- they’re actually your greatest opportunities to expand in self compassion and understanding “ - Jonathan Basker
“The only way out is through” - Jonathan Basker
Untethered Soul by Michael Singer on Amazon
The Daily Stoic Journal by Ryan Holiday on Amazon
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz on Amazon
- From my experience (no pun intended), it seems helpful to identify what the person is feeling in order to identify what might help the most. Meaning, the person who is feeling hopeless may be comforted by something very different than the person who is feeling extreme
- Thank God for the answers that are on the way.
- Drink Tea
- Feeling all of the feelings just because they exist.
- Write. Write. Write. Not to read later, to flush out. Morning pages. Also listen to Coldplay live.
- Uplifting music, setting a happy goal (to look forward to later) i.e.; book a trip, watch the sunset, a concert, rezzo at fave restaurant, eat a donut... whatever endeavor that will create happiness. BE with those feelings, it's important for healing...and then release them as soon as possible. I find being around grounded, happy, and light people always helps too. Looks like they have that part already covered. 😉 Writing without judgement definitely helps.